expectations

"When you love someone without expectation, it breaks his or her power to hurt you.  The only reason we’re hurts I because we have expectations." - P.B. Wilson

Expectations are so hard to let go.  You have criteria of the way that you want your friends to act, or the way your family should treat you, or maybe the list of qualities that you want your future spouse to have.  All of these expectations are good to an extent.  The way that you know how your friends to act is a reason for you to pray for them.  The way that your family should treat you is a reason to pray that your future family will have the meeting your needs of what a family should be.  The things that you want your future spouse to be is a reason to pray for the one that God has in store for you. 

I have had many expectations of the way that my friends and family should treat me or be or whatever.  I have only been disappointed in them because of my high expectations.  However, the last one about your spouse.  Let me tell you, I did have criteria for years that I wanted my spouse to be.  Ha.  Brown hair, blue eyes, tall, dark and handsome.  Yeah, I had my criteria.  But, lately I realized the only criteria that I need to have is that God takes care of it.  I see so many people getting married and engaged and I sit here, alone, without my future husband sitting next to me.  I have no prospects in sight.  This may sound a bit depressing but the light at the end of the tunnel is that all I need is God.  With everything that I have in my life, all I truly need is God.  I have to be constantly reminded at how much He cares for me and wants what is best for me.  Sometimes, it's hard to comprehend.  But, the only thing I can say, really, is that without expectations there is so much in store for you.  I am learning this (and probably always will) that loving unconditionally and being an unconditional Christian is nothing short of God given.  Praise the Lord for that.