We are the problem

Okay, this title may get you a little upset.  I was reading this book thinking that I do not have all the problems, others (men) do too.  However, I have noticed from my past (just by reading this section), that I have tried to make men the center of my life regardless of how I did it.  I tried the online thing and that didn't work out because I was attracting creepers.  Trust me, they were.  You should have seen the conversations that they would try to have with me.  That's another story. 

I was trying to get the attention and love from a group of people (men) that I thought would make me feel better about myself.  I was dead wrong.  It actually made me feel worse because I was technically getting from them what I thought was what I wanted until I realized in the middle of talking with these people, that they were the exact opposite of what I wanted.  Granted, I would not have known half of that if I had not started talking with these people, but if I thougth through what was appropriate or what God wanted, then I would not have engaged in that in the first place.  Beth explains that women act the way in a way that makes us want the guys to rescue us, when most guys want the opposite.  Yes, they do like taking care of us.  Yes, they want to be that shoulder for us to cry on.  However, they do not want the drama that we present because we want their attention.  That is not how this works.  Instead, to save us from our own humiliation, we need to turn to allowing God to be that guy that we want the attention and love from and everything else will follow. 

Guys, it goes the same for you.  If you start to search for God and allow God to run that part of your life, love or insecurities, then your decisions will be better for you AND your future spouse.  I know of a few gusy in my life that want to rescue the girls in trouble, but the relationship never works out.  The girls are making their lives hard so the guys come in like a knight in shining armor but then the guys start to get fed up with always putting on their heavy, suited armor.  They do like to be rescued sometimes too.  It's a two-way street.  We need to start looking to ourselves to start to figure out why we have these insecurities instead of looking to others around us to hide that insecurity.  Pray that God will help you have the strength to overcome that.