why is abstinence so rare?

I grew up in a household that shared and talked about the importance of staying physically pure for our future spouses.  My parents kept telling me that when they were in high school, most of their peers were sexually pure.  I mean, there were the occasional people that were no longer virigins by the time they left high school but it was uncommon to meet someone who had sex while they were in high school.  But, the tables turned when I was in high school.  It was rare to find somoene who had not had sex yet.  People were caught all over the place having sex.  In the drama room, cars, and even at church during youth group.  I know, crazy!! When I recently have told a few men that I was still a virgin, they thought there was something wrong with me or I was a prude.  I mean, why can't a girl this day in age be sexually pure without being looked down upon?  I do know of girls AND guys who grew up in the church and declaring their love for God and then I find out that all along they were playing the game and having sex on the side.  As naive as I was, I never thought my friends would do something like that.  I thought we all had the same thoughts on what "saving yourself for marriage" meant.  I guess I was completely wrong.  With sex being just another thing you do, I see other physical encounters heightened in my life as something that I want to save for my husband.  There are women and men out there that will kiss anything that breathes and moves.  I see kissing as something very personal and intimate.  I still need to pray about it, but I might be saving almost EVERY aspect of myself for my future husband.  I don't want to give myself or any part of me to someone who did not wait to have, just me.  In a way, I find it repulsive.

I do know that there are some girls out there that have the lack of a father figure in their lives and so they search for it in someone who gives them the time of day.  Some girls and guys want to know what it feels like to have sex so they know what to tell their future spouses what they like.  I'm sorry but isn't the reserved for both the husband and wife?  Aren't they supposed to learn together?  That's the part that is exciting and fun.  I just think that it is sad that it is more rare to find someone who is saving themselves for their spouse in every aspect of the word.  I just wish that men and women could see themselves the way that God does and realize the precious person that they are.  They would then be able to see that saving themselves for their future husband or wife is something that they should strive for, not throw away.